November 10, 2014

Lasting Change - how it happens ?

How does Lasting change happen ??

Let me illustrate the point by narrating what went into my mind when....today, I went for shopping along with my wife to the nearby Shipra Mall, Ghaziabad. While passing through the gate I was inspected by the gaurd. He declared me safe, however, it reminded me of the days when I was afraid of getting caught since I would have Pan Masala packet - precisely Rajnigandha in my pocket. I was so much addicted,  that my routine to consume was almost fixed. At 10.30 I used to quietly get up from my seat at office to slip to the pan shop to have Rajnigandha and Cigarette.  If I knew, Manmohan sir (used to support us in implementation of Quality methods) would be there from beginning of the day or there would be some meeting or some other engagement, I used to pre-pone the activity so that the supply of Rajnigandha was not affected. It used to be so refreshing that I used to love it. Same was the love for cigarettes. Now, let me know tell how did I change happened with me...

I was on my way back home when I heard an advertisement that explained the horrendous consequences of eating tobacco and how a child had to get his mouth removed. The advertisement was so emotionally appealing that I imagined my mummy and papa seeing me, their child in such a situation. That was the moment I resolved to quit eating rajnigandha. I threw away the packet I just had purchased. I never ever reverted, except few incidents touched it.

The 2nd incident happened when my father suffered deadly heart attack. We had a horrible time. I never had seen my papa crying and on bed helpless. He always had stood so strong and able to take any kind of load. He is so strong that he has faced big big problems without affecting me or anybody in the family. Finally after some life saving initial care at nearby hospital was taken to Pushpanjali hospital. I was asked at least 5 times if father used to smoke. Finally before papa was taken for surgery the senior doctor called me to take authorization and again asked me the same question. Through out the night while I stayed in the sleeping area,  i was crying for all moments,  I did not respected papa. I imagined all my bad habits which must have pained papa mentally. I imagined that if I continue to smoke like this, Garima would cry like this for me one day. That imagination was sufficient to make me resolve to not smoke again. It is now more than a year that I quit smoking and I do not relish that taste and that feeling.

Both the changes - are permanent changes and some things which I never had imagined at that point of time. This makes me conclude at-least one thing - Change is Asaan (Easy) however there has to be a compelling reason for change. Until and unless the mind is convinced in total about the need for change, change cannot be permanent. The same happens when people starts on a disciplined diet when doctor has given them the last warning. So it is rather a rule for me that if i want to change anything about myself, I should : Ask to self - Why ! Once the mind is clear of the reason, it will find out solution to bring that change.

Another important thing i realized about myself is that the more you force your mind for anything, the more it comes back. When you make peace with the situation - everything becomes easy..

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