September 21, 2014

5 metastasizing emotional cancers

The motivation to write this concise extract of the perspectives that shape me up comes from some personal experiences by me and some of my friends. The first valuable perspective comes from Stephen Covey. He spoke about the five metastasizing emotional cancers. These cancers or emotional characteristic eats up the positiveness we have which is required to do impact-full work. We need to be positive, full of gratitude and thankful to people around us and to God in order to do meaningful work which will fetch us Success. The five emotional cancers are:

(1) Criticism
(2) Comparing
(3) Complaining
(4) Competing for personal worth and
(5) Contending

The above can be seen from a different angle to sound positive, but essentially they become negative feelings when "I" or "Me" is attached. When "I" or "me" is replaced by "objectivity", it no longer remains negative. For e.g. Criticism with objective of degrading someone else and upheld ourselves - is BAD, however when the same criticism is done to develop perspectives, increase awareness or overall good of society - It is no longer negative.

While we recommend ourselves to be positive minded, However not all feeling of disturbances are bad. Disturbance and turbulence thus shouldn't be confused with negativity. When Disturbance & negativity help us achieve success / happiness, they are good. When one quits smoking, the feelings are disturbing but ultimately good in long term.

HBR article titled "Positive Intelligence" mentions that In a metaanalysis of 225 academic studies, researchers Sonja Lyubomirsky, Laura King, and Ed Diener found strong evidence of directional causality between life satisfaction and successful business outcomes".

Shawn Achor in the same article, suggests 5 activities which when repeated over a month has the potential to change habits to positive. Here is the list which he recomends, people to do consistently for a month.
a) Jot down three things they were grateful for.
b) Write a positive message to someone in their social support network.
c) Meditate at their desk for two minutes.
d) Exercise for 10 minutes.
e) Take two minutes to describe in a journal the most meaningful experience of the past 24 hours.

Take a look and see for yourself if you have a chance to transform your life through this simple intervention.

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